Well, I'm back from the meeting in Conn. I'm REALLY glad I went. I met the account team and, praise Jebus, made a good impression. (I knew my subject inside and out, and because my client contact had asked me to jump in, I felt obligated to be really focused and relevant to help him out.) What a relief.
I went with my sister, who has been working with me on these projects. I did it in part because I wanted to have someone with me and in part because I wanted her to see the end product of our work. What was interesting was that even though I was clearly the expert and lead researcher, when two of the client brand managers (both very nice women, not at all status-focused types) introduced themselves, they directed a lot of their comments to Elaine, not me. Elaine didn't notice, and when I pointed it out to her she said it was probably because she is the tall one (with her 3.5" heels on she is about 6', as opposed to my 5'6" in 2-inch heels). She is also genuinely extroverted.
I've never been an alpha female, and in fact it's a role that I wouldn't be comfortable with. There are times that I think it might help, though, in a professional setting. However, it's not something you can fake -- trust me, I've tried. But I think Elaine might be one (it's hard to tell with your little sister). If so, this beta female is going to figure out a way to leverage this to her professional advantage.
Answer me honestly -- Are you an alpha male or female? If so, how do you know? Please don't feel like you are being immodest. Alpha doesn't mean superior -- it's just how much natural authority and leadership you convey.
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